A Breakup Mix For T. Swift

By now I’m sure you’ve heard that the couple formerly known as ‘Hiddleswift’ has ended their relationship.

If you’re oblivious to this news then you should probably stop reading. Not sure what choices you made to end up here.

I am not here to judge my girl Tay’s love life. Because, if I’m being honest, in the current dating climate a 3 month long relationship feels like a pretty solid accomplishment to me.

I’m here to provide Taylor with this breakup mix.

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The tone of this mix is meant to encourage feeling all the feels of a relationship ending while maintaining an optimistic outlook for the future.

As a friend of T. Swift’s, based on her definition provided in this video, I’d like to let her know a few more things.

Taylor, if you need someone to spend your time with I have a pretty busy schedule, but I would be happy to make time for you. Female friendships are so important! We could paint portraits of our cats, drink wine, and play Mash to determine who we’ll actually end up with. [Fingers crossed I get Matthew Gray Gubler, have a mini pig as a pet, and live in a modern loft after honeymooning in Tokyo.]

I’ve been giving a lot of thought about who you should date next — when you’re ready, of course! I really think that SNL’s Colin Jost is a fabulous choice. What’s your stance on being referred to as ‘bae’? colinjost snl weekend update
Just think of how cute it will be when you host SNL and you can make a cameo on Weekend Update with your adorable new BF next season. I see a Leslie Jones flirting battle in your future and it is awesome.

Keep your head up, girl! Way to be brave and put yourself out there. There are so many people who don’t embrace their feelings and just live cautiously in fear. Remember, haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate.

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Do you have any go-to breakup songs? I’ll save them for the next time someone I meet on Bumble doesn’t want to go out on a second date. 💁🏼

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overcome the force of attraction.

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These are the jams I’ve been listening to on repeat for the last few months. Recommended if you like being sweaty outside on 100 degree days and drinking cocktails on patios and rooftops. This mix is perfect for accompanying you on summer road trips and poolside parties (flamingo floaty not included).

Faves: Both songs by Will Joseph Cook. There was a week where I exclusively listened to him on repeat. This video for “Take Me Dancing” is guaranteed to brighten your day!

What has your summer sounded like?

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Seasonal Moxie: Summer Twenty-sixteen

Some people make New Year’s resolutions. I am not one of those people. I create goals based on the season because it works better for my life, dreams, and sleep schedule. I also gave these goals a cooler name — seasonal moxie — because I can. 

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We’re already month into summer, but (YOLO) here are the things I want to focus on for the remaining sweaty summer months I have left. As you can see from my Spring recap I did an ok job at completing last season’s goals. In an effort to focus more on my follow through I’m approaching my goals with these 5 steps. Fingers crossed for better results come fall! Let’s dive right in…

  • Be Active AF. I’ve been doing a little better about going to group fitness classes through ClassPass, but I really want there to be some form of activity every day. I’m not saying I want to get a one hour work out in every day, but something more than the walk from my car to the office and back would be nice. Basically, I’m trying to avoid getting to this level:
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  • Make time weekly for creative pursuits. I’m the type of person who has too many ideas and doesn’t know what to do with them. I’ve narrowed a few ideas and I am ready to run with them. I’m excited to see where they go and how much progress I can make. I want to get in the habit of working on these projects weekly, but I don’t want to put too much pressure on finalizing anything within a certain period of time. At this phase I am leaving myself some flexibility to discover and adapt as I go.
  • Organize my room. I’ve lived in this house for almost a year now and some of my stuff is still just shoved in boxes under my bed and in my closet. I need to go through all my shit and get rid of what I don’t need. I have a pile of clothes that are waiting to be altered. These things need to find permanent homes or be donated.
  • Be more intentional with how I spend my $$$. I want to get a better grasp on how I’m spending my dollars so I can use them more wisely and on things I actually want. Less impulse shopping and more thoughtful purchases.
  • Dream routine!!!  Dudes, this is serious. I want to be this human who has a time and a place where I accomplish all this badass stuff. It’s going to be easier to accomplish all these other goals if I have a routine in place. I’ve been saying this for, like, ever ever, but I am really feeling it right now. Summer time is the perfect pressure free time to test out some new options for my schedule. I’m going to test out some different routines and adjust accordingly when necessary.

Summer is also time for FUNZIES. Here is some more lighthearted shit I would like to accomplish:

  • Ride a swan boat. I have been trying to to this FOR-EV-ER.
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  • Brunch all the GD time.
  • Perfect my own iced coffee recipe
  • Swim in any water that exists, especially Barton Springs
  • Make my own signature sangria
  • Watch a movie outside

You guys, I’m feeling super pumped about this right now. Please feel free to ask me how any/all of these bad boys are doing over the next couple of months. The first day of fall is September 22nd and I’m going to do my best to attack these in full force. Starting with brunch this weekend because, duh.

Do you have any exciting summertime plans lined up?

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Seasonal Moxie: Spring Twenty-Sixteen — The Recap

I’m here to report on my successes and not quite successes of my Spring Moxie. If you need a refresher on what I was attempting to accomplish you can find the original details here.

  • Create a morning routine. LOL. Well I had a routine, it just wasn’t the one I was hoping for. My routine consists of resetting my alarm several times and barely having time to feed my cat and put on a coordinated outfit. I’m going to find a way to do this. I just gave up and stopped trying and loved my bed and morning kitty snuggles more than the idea of eating breakfast and doing morning yoga and having plenty of time to get ready in the morning. #YOLO
  • Take after dinner walks. So, I probably did this a handful of times which was great, but it didn’t quite become a habit. My reason for this was to work on my fitness. I ended up joining a volleyball team (we won the championship game!!!) and reactivating my Classpass membership, so I’ve been doing a little more physical activity which feels like a win.
  • No TV or Internet after 10 PM. There were some solid stretches here. I read Big Magic, Why Not Me?, and Chasers of Light. I definitely want to try to get back into this groove. I had to finish the new season of Orange is the New Black first, obviously.
  • Get a new tattoo! I actually got an old tattoo covered up with my new one and I couldn’t love it more! If you’re in the ATX area and looking for a tattoo artist I highly recommend Megan at Bijou.
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  • Try one new restaurant a month. The new restaurants I checked out were Annie’s, Counter Cafe, and Cover 3.
  • Make my room more awesome. I have officially put some art on my walls, but definitely need to add more. Gallery WallThe painting is a Synesthesia interpretation of the song “Who Knows Who Cares” by Local Natives and was done by Jennifer Morley of audioacrylics. The letter board is by Letterfolk and is currently featuring lyrics from Angel Olsen. The Joy and Sadness painting is by a pal I went to high school with (check out more of her stuff here). A friend’s BF drew me Taylor Swift with no pants on, this was obviously pre-bleach blonde bob Taylor. I also 💜  having old photos on my walls. Yes, that is a giant light up gummy bear.

I know we’re already a few weeks into summer, but I’m still working on narrowing down what to focus my energy on. I’ll be back soon with more deets. Do you have any big summer plans?

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My One Tree Hill Re-Watch: Season 1

I finally caved and decided to re-watch One Tree Hill. I have been putting this off for so long because there are 9 (!!!) seasons. I also tend to get a little addicted to binge watching.

This tweet is still 100% true. One Tree Hill is early 2000s perfection. The high school memories just flooded back with every moment of the show. And damn, so much happens in season one! Like, all the things I remember about One Tree Hill happen in season one.

Not going to lie, I got a little teary watching the opening credits for the first time.

The technology from 2003 is so fucking hilarious.

Selfies on a polaroid, because Peyton was the best prime-time punk rock princess ever.

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Doing a quick little Internet Search, y’all.

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Nathan snapping a 0.3-megapixel photo of Haley and Sheryl Crow, because even back then they knew that pics or it didn’t happen was the rule.
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I don’t know what is more retro about this photo, the classic Nokia phone, that Brooke is actually calling, or that it is titled “Brooke’s Cell” because they all still used their home phones too.

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These “Street Style” headphones that he was probably using with a discman.  Screen Shot 2016-05-14 at 7.08.25 PM

The early 2000s fashion is also so perfectly captured.

This random extra on the basketball team who is only in this episode. His hair + necklace combo and, maybe eyeliner (?!) is so much emo perfection.

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The entire cheerleading squad wearing different track suits.

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The quotable moments from the show are killer. This gem is my favorite:

“I guess I’m just a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside a bitch.” — Peyton Sawyer

Oh and the soundtrack is beyond amazing. I’ve compiled my favorites from season one in case you’d like to stroll down a very emo memory lane. So many of the songs from this TV show were the ones on the mix cds my bestie, Ida, and I made.

I am so glad I’m re-watching One Tree Hill in all its glory. Season 1 gets a 10/10 in my book. Did you watch One Tree Hill back in the day? Are you a Brooke, Haley, or Peyton? I’m obviously a Peyton 😉

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OOTD: The Formation World Tour Edition

Last week I went to the Beyonce concert in Dallas. Leading up to this monumental moment in my life I was struggling to figure out what to wear to an event like this. The truth is I don’t worship at the alter of Queen Bey as much as others — I’m team Destiny’s Child 4Ever.

I wanted the Beyhive to accept me as one of their own. There was a lot of pressure to disguise myself and look like I woke up like this. I mean, it’s not like I was going to see Taylor Swift or Katy Perry. That style I have down.

The only logical step was to crowdsource my outfit inspiration. I used lyrics from my favorite Beyonce (& Destiny’s Child, duh) songs to try to channel the perfect look. The results were pretty split:Beyonce Outfit Poll Results

The top three were “All the women, who are independent Throw your hands up at me”, “‘Cause its 11:30 and the club is jumpin‘ jumpin”, and other. I had some work to do.

The final look y’all:Beyonce Outfit

Honestly, this outfit made me feel like a badass and I was definitely channeling Beyonce.

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Her show was obviously amazing!! I left feeling empowered and like I wanted to magically dance like Beyonce, or at least one of her backup dancers. For a full recap of the show check this post out. Luckily for me, there’s a dance class that I’m about to enroll in. Let’s get in formation, y’all.

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at the moment | four.

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Here’s some neat-o stuff I found around the interwebz recently-ish.

Inside Out’s Joy & Sadness are now available to meet & greet and take selfies with in Epcot. I need to make a trip to Orlando ASAP. And maybe swing by Hogwarts too…

If you’re on the dating scene here are the most likely ways you’ll find your future soul mate… or maybe just your next summer fling.

Upset that I did not discover the gem that is “Award Show Taylor Swift” sooner. A sneak peak of this lyrical masterpiece “I can’t help this look on my face / It’s like I’m living in a freakin’ dream”

These 9 year olds are dropping the fuck word for some kick ass reasons.

One of my recent binge watches was You’re the Worst. I noticed this beer that they were always drinking on the show was Penn something and decided to look it up. Turns out there are a bunch of fictional beers used for TV shows and movies.

“No one is sure exactly how it happened, but it looks like Caesar met Austin in person at a Planet Hollywood back in 2012 and he followed her on Twitter sometime after that. ” This is what celebrity crush dreams are made of. Matthew Gray Gubler, you can follow me back on twitter anytime…

Not sure what emoji to use with your next Instagram post? Consult the Emojini 3000! I tested it out with this lovely photo of Harry Styles and you can see the Emojini’s recommendations. Screen Shot 2016-05-01 at 10.17.53 PM

I am obsessed with “Hello My Name Is Doris“. I have a feeling this movie is the closest thing to predicting my future. If it’s still playing in your area I highly recommend checking it out.

Have you discovered anything super rad online recently?

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Seasonal Moxie: Spring Twenty-Sixteen

Some people make New Year’s resolutions. I am not one of those people. I create goals based on the season because it works better for my life, dreams, and sleep schedule. I also gave these goals a cooler name — seasonal moxie — because I can. 

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I have two different categories of moxie. The routines and the experiences. Routines are typically a little less fun and more about self improvement in a more traditional sense. The experiences make things a little more exciting.

Here are my spring moxie routines:

  • Create a morning routine. This has been my goal for so, so, so long. Something inside my core being just wants to fight this so much. I blame being in afternoon kindergarten. (Thanks Pegs 😉 ) I’m going to become a morning person! Every time I get up early I have a more positive day, so the time is now! I committed to putting my alarm across the room. Hopefully as summer starts I can share my fabulous new morning routine with you.
  • Take after dinner walks. I want to get fit, and I’m not a runner or cross fit human. (At least not at this point in life.) Now that daylight savings time has kicked in I am all over this.
  • No TV or Internet after 10 PM. I want to read more books and get better sleep so this is really a win-win situation. Reading books will prevent the bright lights from keeping my brain awake and hopefully help out my morning routine too. So actually, this is a win-win-win situation.

Now for the spring moxie experiences:

  • Get a new tattoo! I have a couple ideas that I’ve wanted for awhile, or maybe I’ll get an impulse tattoo on the last day of spring. We’ll have to wait and see.
  • Try one new restaurant a month. I’ve only been here a year, but tend to go to the same places that I’m familiar with. I’m ready to find a new favorite spot.
  • Make my room more awesome. I have some art and need more. I am hoarding 50280483258205832 ideas as you can see here and here. Expect a room tour by summer.

Did you set any New Year’s resolution? Are they still going strong? No need to wait until next year if you’ve already lost momentum. Join me in the seasonal fun!

xoxo

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one year later: a letter to myself on moving from #PGH2ATX

pgh2atxYou guys, almost one year ago exactly I started on my journey from Pittsburgh to Austin. Little Zenon, my car, was packed with all the possessions that qualified to make the move with me. (I still miss these mirrors more than I should.) After three days of driving in questionable conditions, first to Nashville and then arriving way beyond hangry in Texarkana, we finally arrived in Austin. Here’s the letter I wish I had received before the move.

Hey girl heyyy!

You’re finally making the big move to Austin! You’ve been talking about this for 5 years. Looks like you had a five year plan without even realizing it, go you! This is equal parts exciting and terrifying and that is a-ok. Trust yourself and the unknown. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself. You always make good decisions and you’re stronger than you give yourself credit for. Try not to get so stressed out about everything and enjoy the adventure that moving across the country to this new city is.

Dude, the tacos are going to be so good. Like, seriously. You have never had a taco this good in your life. Probably don’t eat tacos three days in a row on the reg though. Your metabolism isn’t what it was in your early 20s. 😉

Don’t feel pressured to do things just because you feel like you should since you live here now. You live here now, you don’t have to go to SXSW the week after you move. There will be other SXSWs and, guess what, you don’t have to go to those if you don’t want to either. You are still sleeping on an air mattress and waiting for your internet to be activated. You’re much happier getting pizza and watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer in your apartment by yourself, so embrace it!

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Trust your gut when applying for jobs. That abrasive Texan who is making his employees noticeably uncomfortable in the interview is probably not a good fit for you. You’ll walk into an interview a week later and have the complete opposite feeling. You get that job and soon after you finally feel some relief.

You’re going to cry a lot. You feel overwhelmed going to a JMU alumni volunteer day and start crying in the car on the way there. You have to skip it. You eat pancakes at IHOP and feel better. You dye your hair too dark of a shade of purple and cry about how you ruined the one thing in your life that was making you happy. This is a bit extreme, but it’s ok. You end up deciding you look like a comic book super hero and it fades to a better shade after 2 washes. Talk to a therapist and don’t be scared of going on meds for your anxiety. It’s not going to prevent you from being yourself.

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You’ll get to ride on a boat with Walk the Moon and it is exactly what you pictured your life in Austin looking like. At their show later that night they play “Portugal” and you feel all the feels in the best way possible.

Friends visiting is the best! No one wanted to visit you when you lived in Pittsburgh, but everyone wants to make a trip to Austin. You get to explore new places, introduce them to the best queso and your favorite local coffee shop. It’s a refreshing feeling being around people you are completely comfortable with.

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You’ll realize you’ve been in Austin for 6 months and you have a breakdown. You think you should have more friends and your life completely figured out already. Calm down and breathe. Six months is such a short period of time. Don’t put this pressure on yourself. You’re not going to have besties the same caliber as the ones from home. You’ve known those people since you were 12. Establishing adult friendships takes time. Give yourself a break. You’ll join things in the future and start to make friends.

Schedule Sunday Skype dates with your far away friends. It’s a great way to get your tush out of bed at a respectable hour and your heart is always happier after.

You think you need to wait until you’re living by yourself to become the cat lady you are meant to be. You don’t. You’ll see this precious little kitty face while casually scrolling through the Austin Pets Alive site and know that she’s the one.

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Even though everything won’t be easy and there will be too many #feelz to count, you’ll realize you’re exactly where you should be. You don’t feel like you’re in limbo anymore. You’re not waiting for something to happen. You’re here and you get to create the life you want. Keep it up, girl, you’re doing great.

xoxo,
Jess!

P.S. Go to Barton Spring sooner. It’s rad.

If you’re planning on making a cross country moves anytime soon here are some tips! For funzies here’s the music I was listening to around the time of my move and the first few months in ATX.

Have you ever moved to a new city? Did you have any similar experiences or were they drastically different?

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